Homemade Trauma: Rethinking the Happy Indian Family

The myth of the happy family exists not because of our actual experiences of family life, but because of our collective silence and our reluctance to acknowledge the abuse and violence inherent in the family. Unless we do that, we will continue to internalise such abuse and perpetuate it, and find ourselves unable to distinguish love from oppression, care from control, safety from imprisonment. It is only when we see the family for what it is, and not what we are told it is or should be, that we can begin to rescue our notions of care, security and love and recognise meaningful relationships outside this paradigm of family.